Chasing the Magic

Posted: January 18, 2016 in Life, living, show business, truth-telling, writing
Tags: , , ,


He looked over at her. She frowned and hugged herself. He reached over and turned up the heater.

Her question filled the silence between them. He watched the streetlights flicker by, separating the moments of darkness. Light, dark, light, dark, light…. Not for the first time he wished he wasn’t driving.

He repeated himself. “I’m looking for magic.”

“Well what do you mean? What magic?” Despite her shivering, she had to know.

They were returning from a group coaching session, the first one he’d ever attended. They had done several group exercises, all designed to help everyone figure out exactly what they wanted out of life. The session had been illuminating, particularly for him. He’d been so restless for such a long time, not knowing why. The coaching exercises had helped.

“I’m not sure I can put it into words,” he began.


He drummed his fingers on the steering wheel, staring out at the salt-stained roads, thinking.

“Ever have one of those moments when there’s sudden brightness? You can be looking at a light display in a busy downtown section. Or you notice the way the sun hits a particular tree in the spring…..You get this feeling, this sense of a world beyond this world, one where anything’s possible. There’s a mountain of treasure, a kind of…..” He thought hard. “Kind of like a never-ending orgasm, just out of reach.”

She snorted abruptly. “WHAT?”

They both laughed.

“I don’t know” he grinned. “I’m having a hard time trying to explain this…”

“Yeah, no kidding.”

“I’m pretty sure that when we were kids, we had a sense of wonder about the world, and about all of the possibilities. Long before we got taught about responsibilities, and our duty to the systems of employment, payments, mortgages, cars, gifts and taxes.”

“As we got older, and we took on all these burdens, that wonder got snuffed out. We forgot what it meant to explore.”

She stared straight ahead. He could tell she was processing.

He waited, silent.

After a while she looked back at him. “So tell me, what do you see when you envision this magic? As an adult, I mean.”


“Wait. Is this what you were talking about tonight? California? Being around creative people?”

He smiled. “Yeah, I’m pretty sure that’s part of it. I mean, I know I can get there and do everything I talked about: writing, performing improv comedy and maybe acting. But I know there are people who do that, who don’t connect to the magic. That’s the risk, I guess.”

She shook her head. “I don’t get you. I thought you wanted these things….”

“Oh I do, I do. And I’m going after them. No doubt about it. I just don’t want to fool myself into thinking any of it’s going to bring that elusive magic.”

He was grateful for the mostly empty street. It really was a beautiful night, despite the cold and the wind. The streetlights played over the road in a way that hinted at the sparkling existence of the magic for which he longed.

He had always had a love affair with light. As a kid, he recalled having a plastic game figure that lit up with a soft red glow. He remembered being mesmerized by it, as he played out on the street with it, in the twilight of a summer evening.

Later, he recalled taking his first trip to Toronto from Oshawa, and marvelling at the city skyline, with the thousands of building lights all creating their unique dance. Each one was so different, and each seemed to invite him.

“I’m not sure there’s a single point where I’ll say ‘this is it’. I think this magic requires me to keep moving, keep exploring.” He was onto something, he was sure of it.

“I need to keep creating. Keep experiencing. Whether it’s writing, or acting, or playing piano or whatever it is….I won’t be able to stop. I can’t stop. When I stop, I’m pretty sure the magic will be hidden again.”

She nodded.

“I know how cliché it sounds…”

“Don’t” she said. “Don’t apologize for this. For any of it.” She hesitated. “I mean, I can’t pretend to understand everything you said, but I get that it’s important to you.”


“Yeah. I haven’t heard you talk like this for a while. It’s definitely a good thing, this whatever it is you’re after. Not sure I’d call it magic but….it’s definitely something. How long have you been thinking about it?”

He scratched his head. Sighed. “For a long long time.” He eased the car to the stoplight. “I think it’s why I haven’t been able to feel settled in my apartment. Or for that matter, my job.”

The light turned green. He gave it some gas. “What’s worse, I could feel myself starting to stagnate. It was starting to feel like hell. Like a living hell.”

“Yeah, I noticed you weren’t laughing as much. You seemed so serious all the time. Even when we went to comedy shows, you sat there just watching the stage, like you were lost in thought.”

He nodded.

“So what changed?”

“Well for one thing, I think I’ve recaptured some momentum. I’m signing up for improv comedy classes again. Just need to get my foot back in the door again, hang around creative types.”

He smiled, mostly to himself. “And then there was the coaching thing tonight. It really helped open my eyes. I was in danger of forgetting so much.”

He didn’t mention that he didn’t think he was out of danger, just yet. It’s one thing to talk about it, but he knew he had to act or would it all go away again.

He would get old. He would lose out to complacency, comfort, and rot.

No way. No fucking way. No.


  1. contoveros says:

    It’s in the writing, dude. You find your true self whenever you go within and connect with the awe you experienced as a child. It is magic. Some say it may even be the Kingdom of Heaven.

    We find a ” sense of a world beyond this world” when we open ourselves to that muse that whispers “sweet nothins” in our ear and we just gotta share it with the rest of the world or we’d bust.

    Ain’t we lucky doing the things we really love to do?

    Michae; J

    Liked by 1 person

    • wolfshades says:

      “…it may even be the Kingdom of Heaven”. That was exactly my thought too!

      For the longest time I’ve felt truly stagnant and restless. Couldn’t figure out why life wasn’t all that enjoyable. Pretty sure I’ve hit the key with this one – and will know soon enough when the improv comedy starts up.

      Thanks for writing, Michael! You’re one of the good ones I’ve met in my journeys.


  2. Hmm… I’m going to sound negative here, but I hope you get my meaning. I wouldn’t call it “magic” – the word “magic” involves some sort of trickery, some sort of manipulation — what you’re searching for, what I have searched for and found in being my true and authentic self, is JOY. More of it anyways. As you know, I worked as an Executive for many years — before giving it all up to find my way back to the creative world. Best. Thing. Ever. But its not MAGIC that I found, it’s a sense of well-being, a fundamental joy that all of us should feel regularly. Most people do jobs they hate for the money they need to buy the things they think will give them a sense of joy — and to a certain extent, it does. But, the kind of joy your searching for is on-going — even in the worst of moments (like a failed audition call back I just had the other day), you’re still glad that THIS is what you do every day. Even the painful moments of working as an actor, far outweigh any money I ever made or any 5 star hotels I stayed at or any gadgets and THINGS I owned as a successful Executive.

    There’s no doubt you’re following your life’s journey… it’s such a cool trip, isn’t it? ;)


    Liked by 1 person

    • wolfshades says:

      Hi Carmen! No worries – I’m not too concerned about how to label it. “Magic” was the only word that came close to what I was talking about and meaning (sans your interpretation of it as trickery or manipulation). It was present when I was a kid, long before there were thoughts about what I should do for a living (for example). Even with this blog, I find it hard to describe what I’m talking about.

      While the word “joy” make work for you, my experience doesn’t quite encompass it. What I mean can’t be described as an emotion. It is both a state of being, and a motivator.

      The state has always involved a momentary glimpse of something fantastic (in the true sense of what that word means), kind of akin to what you may have seen in fantasy novels like Lord of the Rings, or even better, the Silmarillion.

      In my experience, it has caused me to quicken my heart rate and immediately become curious – only to have the sense of it slip away a moment later.

      So, like a junkie, my search will continue, using the only means I know how: the pursuit of that which, yes, brings joy. But joy doesn’t explain it, at least for me.

      P.S. I’m glad you spoke up! I know I haven’t come close to describing it, though your comment has prompted more thought to bring it at least a little closer to the surface.

      Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s